Have You Ever?

I was at work the other day--can't tell you why--but I was suddenly overwhelmed by saddness. The feeling overtook me so quickly that I had no time to ward it off. I asked around the office to make sure that I didn't need to take a mental health day and discovered that it happens to other people. I was instantly relieved. Yet, the relief was only temporary as my mind begin to work overtime to process and solve the problem at hand. My conclusion is a simple one---Women spend a lot of time doing what others would like for them to do; we spend a lot of time recreating ourselves so that we fit in with what the world would have us to do; we take care of others while neglecting ourselves; we put our dreams on hold so that we can help others nurture theirs and make them come true; we make do so that others can have better than we do; we sacrifice. While I understand that sacrifice is natural and needed, I also understand that there is a need for women to train themselves that taking time out for ourselves is not robbery. There is no way we can be the best that we can be and take care of all the responsibilities that we have without taking time to breathe, time to relax, time for us. Yes most women will go and go and go, but we are slowly killing ourselves.

Look at the number of women who suffer from depression. And no it is not that we are necessarily weaker than the generations before us. The truth is that we, women, have finally gotten to a place where we realize that we are going to have to take a stand and let others know that we need help. Our ancestors needed help, but they supported each other. In our current generation of women, it is easier to put a knife in a female's back than it is to help her. We have the crab in a basket mentality that makes it hard for us to see past our current situations or allow others to reach their full potential.

Ladies---we have got to get it together. What happened that caused us to kill each other and ourselves on a daily basis? What happened to the sense of pride and sisterhood that used to be an unspoken rule? Why are we taking pent up anger out on females that had nothing to do with it? Why are we refusing to like each other with out any background checks on character? We have got to stand tall and strut our stuff. Remember we are like peacocks. We have no time to hate on the sister that just stepped into the room. No matter how she struts her stuff, we still have our own stuff to strut. Let's let all of our beautiful colors blend to make a beautiful picture instead of messing up the picture. Let's get back to the place of supporting one another, trusting one another, loving one another....let's get back to sisterhood.