Wow!!

Ever took a minute to stop and think, only to look around and discover how many years have quickly passes you by. The old saying, "Time waits for no one," has been constantly in my thoughts lately. I keep saying by the time I am ______, I want to ________. That saying rushes to the forefront of my mind each time that I say that. I am making a conscious decision today to live while I can. I don't know where death is, but I do know that I have put a lot of things on hold for senseless reasons. Reasons like what will the people say if I, how will I be viewed, etc, etc, etc. The bottom line is that as long as I am not doing anything outside of the will of God, there is no reason why I cannot do those things that I have always secretly desired to do. There is no reason for me not to travel. Ladies, children are not an excuse not to travel. Children are not a reason not to finish or begin a new educational avenue. Stop looking for excuses. Of course it may not always be easy, but no one said it would be. Think of how great you will feel once you have overcome and been successful despite the odds. I am going to build a house and be debt free by the time I am 45. It is going to take discipline and hard work, but I am going to do it. It all begins with me and what I believe. What are your dreams? What are your secret desires? Make a list of things that you want to do; now do them. When the first list is complete, make a new one. Live your life. Give yourself permission to have fun. Give yourself permission to take care of you. Liberate yourself. If you don't, no one will. Paul Tournier once said, "Nothing makes us so lonely as our secrets." It's true you know. Secrets can cause us to feel bad or to think less highly of ourselves than we should. Let's be the powerful creatures that we were created to be. Let's WOW ourselves a little more.

Have You Ever?

I was at work the other day--can't tell you why--but I was suddenly overwhelmed by saddness. The feeling overtook me so quickly that I had no time to ward it off. I asked around the office to make sure that I didn't need to take a mental health day and discovered that it happens to other people. I was instantly relieved. Yet, the relief was only temporary as my mind begin to work overtime to process and solve the problem at hand. My conclusion is a simple one---Women spend a lot of time doing what others would like for them to do; we spend a lot of time recreating ourselves so that we fit in with what the world would have us to do; we take care of others while neglecting ourselves; we put our dreams on hold so that we can help others nurture theirs and make them come true; we make do so that others can have better than we do; we sacrifice. While I understand that sacrifice is natural and needed, I also understand that there is a need for women to train themselves that taking time out for ourselves is not robbery. There is no way we can be the best that we can be and take care of all the responsibilities that we have without taking time to breathe, time to relax, time for us. Yes most women will go and go and go, but we are slowly killing ourselves.

Look at the number of women who suffer from depression. And no it is not that we are necessarily weaker than the generations before us. The truth is that we, women, have finally gotten to a place where we realize that we are going to have to take a stand and let others know that we need help. Our ancestors needed help, but they supported each other. In our current generation of women, it is easier to put a knife in a female's back than it is to help her. We have the crab in a basket mentality that makes it hard for us to see past our current situations or allow others to reach their full potential.

Ladies---we have got to get it together. What happened that caused us to kill each other and ourselves on a daily basis? What happened to the sense of pride and sisterhood that used to be an unspoken rule? Why are we taking pent up anger out on females that had nothing to do with it? Why are we refusing to like each other with out any background checks on character? We have got to stand tall and strut our stuff. Remember we are like peacocks. We have no time to hate on the sister that just stepped into the room. No matter how she struts her stuff, we still have our own stuff to strut. Let's let all of our beautiful colors blend to make a beautiful picture instead of messing up the picture. Let's get back to the place of supporting one another, trusting one another, loving one another....let's get back to sisterhood.

Say What

Today's news coupled with watching Schindler's List is really starting to bother me today. Why do people/have people always think/thought that it was okay to trample on the feelings of others? Does it make since that just because you are angry with someone, prettier than someone, smaller than someone, a different race from someone that it is okay to throw caution to the wind where that individual's feelings are concerned? Yes, I am human and probably guilty of stepping on another individual's feelings; however, I do not make a conscious effort to do so. I do not sit down and plan out how to make another individual unhappy. I have better things to do with my time than to make fun of others or plan their demise. Why do you think it is that way? Are people just so deeply unhappy with themselves that the only way that they can feel better is by kicking someone while they are down and daring them to get up and try again? Has life become so difficult that the need for power has overtaken the innate ability to nurture?

Sexting--ending in a life; bosses--working evil against employees; husband--stepping out on wives; wives--lowrating their husbands; sisters and brothers--refusing to be on one accord; preachers--can we find a true one in the world today? This has got to stop. We have to embrace each other. We have to love one another. Otherwise we are setting up a hostile environment for our children and their children behind them. Please let's get it together. Like the old song says, We are the world.

Encourage Yourself

There are times in life when everything seems to be against you. No matter what you try to do; your best just does not seem like enough. Songs have been written to encourage individuals, but some days. The lyrics do nothing to make you feel better. Looking to the left and the right only makes you feel worse because it seems that no matter how hard you try the next man is always ahead of you--sometimes when they aren't living like anything. The devil himself would have you to believe that God has forsaken you although your teachings let you know otherwise. These are the times when we need to draw closer to the Lord. As humans we are quick to pick up the phone and call our girlfriends to discuss the matter. Some of us call our mom, but there is only one that can sustain you in that ninth hours when the chips are down and your back is against the wall. There is only one that will be there no matter the day or the hour. So when it looks like all hope is gone, look to Jesus. He is the one, the only one that can truly satisfy. Man will fail you, it is human nature. Don't be hard on man. Just be grateful that you have a friend that you can go to. If God puts it one you, you can take it. He is preparing you. He is working out those things that need to be cast away in order for Him to use you for the purpose for which you were created. He is shaping you and molding you just like the potter at the potter's wheel. Be of courage and increase your faith, you are being tried by fire. You will not be burned. Hold on and be strong. The battle has been fought and the victory has been won. Trust Him (Jesus). He is the God of a second chance and the only one that can deliver you out of the hand of your oppressor. There is nothing too hard for Him so give it to Him and wait on your deliverance for the time is drawing nigh. P.U.S.H--pray until something happens, a break through is coming your way. God is in His holy temple. Yield yourself to Him, trust and never doubt--good things will be added unto you.

Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Over and over again, I am seeing a recurring theme. Women are hurting, yet feeling like there is no one to talk to about what concerns them or weighs them down. It is as if the devil himself has decided to pick on the women now. Let's face it, he (the devil) has enough men who are out of place that it makes the few who are doing the darn thing abnormal. Now if the women are at a loss/thrown off balance, don't you see why our children will be on the wrong path. Is it not bad enough that when we came here as slaves, family structure for us was not considered important. Now, we make it seem that it is not a priority. Women are too busy with the day-to-day hustle and bustle of life. They don't have time to make a family what it should be. They are too busy trying to make sure that the family can eat, have running water, and lights. There is no time to be who were created to be. The sad part is that we are so busy that we don't even recognize the hand of the enemy at work. It is shameful the amount of children who don't feel loved that live in the world today. The need of attention is going to turn into negative attention for the vast majority of those individuals. It is also sad that this world is designed that women don't even have time to recognize the tale-tale signs taht something is wrong with their children. I am just trying to figure out why women are criticized for everything to the nth degree when men can do whatever and it is all good.

Can anyone help?

Why?

Why do we, women, deny ourselves? Why do we live our lives in a manner that pleases others but causes us to feel limited? Why do we allow others to mold us into what they think we should be? Is it because we have the fairy tale mentality and want to be loved and cared for and believe deep down inside that if we please others, we will ultimately be rewarded?

Why do we, women, hate on each other? Why do we get positions of power and let them go to our head, forget from whence we came, and have the audacity to treat others as less than because their paychecks, houses, cars, etc are not on our level?

Why do we, women, settle--for less? Why are we becoming make do individuals just to be able to say that we are with someone? Does our happiness count for anything? Can we not be successful and happily single? And for those that are married, do we have to snub those that are not or murder them with the "When you planning on settling down?"

Why do we women refuse to admit our feelings? Don't we know that holding on to hurt, anger, pain, disappointment, resentment, etc kills us daily?

Somebody, please tell me why?

Hello

I don't know about anyone else, but I truly feel that women need to have the opportunity to express their opinions in an environment that allows them to do so without being criticized by their friends and loved ones. I am a married, working mother of three biological and one acquired. I have two grandchildren. My job requries a lot from me and so does my family. I want to be able to make both my family life and my professional life work, but there are times when I feel like giving up. Sure no one wants to admit it, but the more I listen to women, truly listen to women, I realize that we are crying out for help. It is imperative that women stand up and support each other. This blog site was created to give women the opportunity to let it all out. No one has to know who you are. Get it out! Get it out! Get it out!